What’s Actually In Your Control (And What’s Not)

For the longest time, I exhausted myself trying to manage things that were never mine to hold.

Other people’s opinions.
The outcome of a situation.
Whether they understood me or not.
How someone treated me—especially when I was kind.

Sound familiar?

We’ve been conditioned to believe that if we just say it right, do it right, give enough, or prove enough... things will work out the way we hope.

But here’s the truth:

There is so much that is out of our control.
And it’s not a flaw in you. It’s a fact of being human.

The future? Not in your hands.
The past? Already happened.
What someone thinks of you, believes, or chooses? Not yours to fix.

But here's the good news: There’s a whole world of power in what actually is yours to tend to.

🌱 Your boundaries
🌱 Your response
🌱 Your energy
🌱 Your self-talk
🌱 Your voice
🌱 Your attitude
🌱 Your healing process
🌱 Who you allow in your space
🌱 The way you treat others
🌱 The way you treat yourself

This is where your freedom lives.
This is where change begins.
This is where your power grows.

When we stop trying to control what was never ours, we make space to become the person we were always meant to be.

So today, if you’re spiraling in what-ifs or why-did-they’s—pause.
Come back to what you can choose.

Your peace is too sacred to outsource.